Buttons and Shoe Laces

Here are some tips to help increase independence and participation in fastenings.

First, teach unbuttoning first and you can use big buttons and loose button holes to start. These are easier to grasp.
It is always easier to start learning with the clothing placed on their lap or a table so they can look at what they are doing. Make sure the clothing is in the same position it would be when wearing it.
Use a consistent sequence with the same language, e.g. �pinch, push, pull".
Use a graded approach. First start by completing 2 buttons and as your young person builds up their confidence increase the number of buttons.
If your young person continues to have difficulty you could look into buying a button hook or you can make one from a pipecleaner.

If your child has been struggling with the typical way of tying shoelaces here is a different method.
Forward Chaining can be helpful when working on shoelaces. This involves teaching the skill starting with the first step e.g. crossing the laces then tying a knot etc. The young person completes the first step, and the adult performs the rest. When the young person is able to do that well, they perform the first two steps, and the adult performs the rest. Continue this way until they can do all steps independently.
Ensure a stable base of support when completing shoe laces e.g. is sat on the bed/is able to lean on the wall. This will help to be able to focus on developing shoe lacing skills and not worry about balance.
Lace a shoe using two different coloured laces to enable easier breakdown of each step.
It is easier to practice laces if the shoe is on the table initially rather then on the foot.

Last updated09 Oct 2025

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